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The Mother’s Creed for Rocking Parenting

Let’s start with the words all mothers need to hear: You are capable, powerful and important. You should never be made to feel inferior, ashamed or embarrassed about your choices as a mother. There is so much noise out there about parenting. Everyone has an opinion and they are willing (and eager) to share it. It’s time to let that all go and be confident in ourselves.

Being a parent is hard. We have to make a lot of decisions and we don’t always know if we’re doing things “right”—because there is no ONE right way. How to feed, diaper and soothe our babies. Whether we circumcise, sleep train, or babywear. How long we use pacifiers, bottles, and rear-facing car seats. If we choose daycare, nanny, private school, public school. The list is endless.

Sometimes moms might feel a little insecure and try to pass their way off as the BEST way so they can feel better about it (we’ve all been there, right?). If you’re on the receiving end of advice like that, take it with a big grain of salt. If your baby is fed, loved and safe, you’re doing great.

There will be times when you don’t know the answer, you don’t know where you stand and you start to doubt yourself. Stop. You can ask your mom, your sister, your best friend, the lady down the street what she thinks or how she does something. But when it comes down to it, it’s your baby, your family, your life.

If something feels weird or wrong, take action. Call the pediatrician. Change daycares. Don’t worry about what other people will think. Trust your mom gut. That motherly intuition is a powerful gift.

And the noise! The online chatter telling us what’s the BEST and what’s the WORST is deafening. Tune it out. When it gets to be too much, stop Googling, stop trolling the mom Facebook groups and online forums, just stop.

That’s the thing about parenting—we aren’t alone. Moms share a common bond. We’ve all encountered questions and difficulties during this beautiful, crazy journey of raising kids, so when we find an answer or a solution that works for us, we want to help other moms out and tell them all about it.

And that’s awesome. But what works for one mom doesn’t always work for another. It’s okay to gather information and consider different options, but ultimately, you are the decision-maker. You know your baby and yourself, so make the choices that are right for you.

After all, Mom knows best.